SHARING: An Access to Self Transformation 5 of 36

SHARING: An Access to Self Transformation 5 of 36

TWO SHARES

1.   Breakthrough In Communication

2.   Being A World Citizen

1.   Breakthrough In Communication

“Well I never saw that coming!” is what I said to myself after I had just called my mother and father during my Landmark Forum back in 1993. I had been sitting in a room of some 200 participants and we were inquiring into our lives and how we had become the way we were……Consider there are moments in your childhood that has profoundly impacted your life…….aah… when I was 13 years old and flying to an English boarding school…see more here.

Saturday 23 October 1993 (Landmark Forum) at around 3pm: 

PHONE CALL TO MUM and DAD

  • Charles: “Hey Mum and Dad, do you remember that time when I was left alone at Victoria Train Station, London when I left Hong Kong?”
  • Magistrate Father Tony: “Of course son, we even looked at suing the company for failing in their duties of taking care of an unaccompanied minor!”
  • Charles: (To himself……wow I never knew?!)
  • ” Well Mum and Dad, I am doing this course right now and I want to let you that ever since that moment, I thought that you didn’t love me.”
  • English Father(surprised) : What is the name of the course, who runs it?
  • Chinese Mother Shu Man (surprised) : “What are you saying? How dare you say that! We always love you. You think we love your brother more but NO we love you the same! Trouble is….you never listen!”
  • Charles: (Starting to cry)  
  • To Dad: “ It’s called the ‘Landmark Forum’ and it’s run by a company called Landmark Education, Head office in San Francisco.”
  • To Mum: “Mum I so thought you loved Felix more!”
  • Mum (angry): “How dare you, after all we’ve done, how can you, how can you?”
  • Charles (balling)
  • “ I am so sorry Mum and Dad that I have been pushing your love away. I never believed you loved me because I thought you always loved my brother more!”
  • Dad(Startled) : “Urm son I don’t like this lovey dovey stuff, here is your mother.
  • Mum: “Are you OK, where are you?”
  • Charles: “I am fine Mum, thanks, my break is ending soon so I need to be back in the room. Bye”

As I walked back into the room, I was struck by the SHARING OF MYSELF with my parents. It opened up “ALL OF US” to a whole NEW LEVEL OF COMMUNICATION…..my sharing truly EXPANDED our FAMILY.

From a Wisdom Course inquiry, this demonstrates a world of DIALOGUE versus MONOLOGUE…..my monolgue (conversations I have with myself) will never make a difference unless I GET INTO COMMUNICATION!…urm Charles, sometimes that’s not easy! You’re telling me!

2.   Being A World Citizen

My sharing of “network of conversations” around:

WORLD PEACE BY 2020, PASS IT ON! YOU’RE IT!

Has reached FACEBOOK and I publically thanked them today!

For your information, I have been “BRANDING” many many pictures ONLINE, over the year with:

WORLD PEACE BY 2020, PASS IT ON! YOU’RE IT!*

(*The “Pass It On! You’re It!” came from a 10 year old Australian called Reuben)

As a result:

IF YOU FACEBOOK SEARCH GIF #WP2020

YOU WILL SEE the BLUE so called “DROP IN THE OCEAN” #WP2020 GIF!”  

“DROP IN THE OCEAN” #WP2020 GIF!”  

It shows the Words:

WORLD PEACE BY 2020, PASS IT ON! YOU’RE IT!

Being spelled

“IN BUBBLES”

Behind a girl

Who has just dived into a beautiful blue swimming pool.

Thank you (Facebook) and LOVE from a WORLD CITIZEN #WP2020

ARE YOU ONE? If yes, please consider PASSING THIS ON! Smiley Face World Citizen! #WP2020

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GETTING OFF IT!- An Access to SOMETHING NEW!( 4 of 36)

Two people getting off it by jumping

When you can recall times where you were STUCK, or you were being POSITIONAL about anything in your life, consider that this ‘FIXED WAY OF BEING”  LIMITS what is possible for you. How many times have you ‘held your ground’, ‘put up your defences’ or simply just wanted ‘to be right’? What is it like? How does it feel? Have you noticed the amount of FREEDOM you have when you are this way?

I remember when I participated in the Landmark Forum back in 1993; this inquiry was introduced to us on Friday: It was called RACKETS! They used to describe it as ‘a way of doing or having plus a persistent complaint ‘and wow, did I have a few!

 “I never have enough time!”,

 “I never have enough money!” and

“No one understands me!”

were all complaints I had with myself with so much proof, you would find it hard to argue with me! It was fascinating for me, as I could so easily JUSTIFY and GIVE EVIDENCE for each of these three” rackets” mentioned above.

“Look at how busy I am?”

 “Check out my bank account” and

“Do I have to repeat myself?” were all comments I would to say to myself or even out loud!

WHAT IS THE COST      (of these persistent complaints)

Great question: Having dwelt in this inquiry and having now distinguished that I know these are ‘fixed ways of being’, I have also learned what it costs me,( to have and honour these complaints  that  I have had with myself!).

  • Love
  • Happiness
  • Joy
  • Full Self Expression
  • Freedom
  • Vitality

are all words that spring to mind. In the course, I really discovered the IMPACT these conversations made on myself, my family and my friends. Yikes……but how often did I want to be right? How often did I dominate a conversation by being so set in my ways! It was such an eye-opener!

GETTING OFF IT

Hah, the beauty of THIS REVEAL is I can now choose to ‘stand down’!

I can distinguish my persistent complaint and TAKE ACTION! Whoa…..what does that look like for you now Charles? Well this ‘distinction based training’ really has opened up a whole new world where my righteousness is not required. Taking stands, being in action and getting off it are all accesses I have today to create A NEW WAY OF BEING! Maybe the continual PRACTICE of GETTING OFF IT is an access to the TRANSFORMATION for YOU where LOVE, JOY and HAPPINESS are all consequences that result in this skill!

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PARTICIPATION – “On The Court” or “In The Stands” (3 of 36)

PARTICIPATION – “On The Court” or “In The Stands” (3 of 36)

One of the “Transformation words” I am discovering is the word: Participation. Defined as “the action of taking part in something” has myself marvel at my level of participation in my communities. How often do I choose to not ‘get involved’ and operate from the sidelines with thoughts/feelings and comments; which are all separate from the actual action.

“Being On The Court”

When one is ‘on the court’ , one is really engaging in whatever arises, with the actions taken being because one is participating. There is never any doubt, when one is participating, about the results that are caused. “Lights, Camera, Action” is definitely an invite for joining in and taking participation to the next level.

“In the Stands”

A classic inquiry in my Landmark Forum about being “in the stands”. How often do we ‘sit on our hands’ and refrain from getting on the court and getting amongst it! The relative ease one has to ‘comment’ from the stands,( with one’s thoughts and opinions) makes no difference if no action is personally taken. Consider it is often MUCH EASIER to be in the stands versus on the court!

Consider when one:

  • gets involved,  
  • takes part, 
  • engages, 
  • contributes,
  • shares, 
  • associates, 
  • partakes, 
  • joins in

life itself, you are taking on transformation for yourself and it may even impact others! Now how cool is that to know, and therefore get off the stands and get on the court declaring: I AM IN!

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What are you currently PARTICIPATING IN, THAT YOU SO MUCH ENJOY?

CONTRIBUTION: Yet Another “Source Word” for TRANSFORMATION (2 0f 36)

CONTRIBUTION: Yet Another “Source Word” for TRANSFORMATION (2 0f 36)

Contribution: “a gift or payment to a common fund or collection”. Observing parts of my life where I am a contribution to others, (and myself), I know that it enhances and nurtures my heart. I am consistently left with gratitude for life itself, especially if my contribution is so well received and that it indeed ‘TOUCHES, MOVES and INSPIRES!”; as they say at Landmark Worldwide!

I am currently participating in my consecutive Wisdom Course Down Under, and I learned to consider how we treat words as OBJECTS. If the spoken word ‘DISAPPEARS” once said, then how come we hold on to them as if they were an object? How come we store the good and bad comments in different compartments in our heads, only to RECALL them at any time of the DAY or NIGHT?

“OK Charles, so what about this network of conversations called “World Peace by 2020: Pass It On! You’re It!”, where does that come into your life around CONTRIBUTION and how does this fit with these words as being OBJECTS?

“Aah great question!” said Charles , enthusiastically.

TODAY 23 August 2019 : “I was speaking to a lovely 19 year old “Year of the Rat” Ocean Shores Tavern Barmaid called Lys, who was making me a “Dirty Soy Chai Latte” for the opening night of the Ocean Shores Art Expo. I was wearing my World Peace by 2020 Name Badge and started talking about my stand for World Peace by 2020 which started 15 September 1995. One thing lead to another until I actually spoke that “NETWORK of CONVERSATION” called “World Peace by 2020: Pass It On! You’re It!”

She (Lys) suddenly remarked “Oh that’s you! I see THAT SIGN on the side of the road and DRIVE BY IT EVERY DAY!

She (Lys) suddenly remarked “Oh that’s you! I see THAT SIGN on the side of the road and DRIVE BY IT EVERY DAY! http://queenspeace.com

Hah, what a CONTRIBUTION to know she has absorbed those words (as an object) and STORED IT like an object. Remarkable, lovely and indeed do “PASS IT ON”; like the 10 year old boy called Reuben(see above) said to me (as a CONTRIBUTION to forward the conversation for World Peace by 2020). It was his thought of the conversation as a GAME, where you get TAGGED with the words! 🙂 Ahhh Wisdom AT PLAY!

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YOU will BE A CONTIBUTION if YOU POST below to this BLOG, and hey, WHY NOT PASS IT ON? AND WHICH ONE?!!

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GENERATING – ONE of sum 36 WORDS OF TRANSFORMATION LEARNED

From that, on Monday afternoon straight after the course, Reuben (aged 10) came to my door THRILLED to share his latest escapades at Brunswick Heads Public School, Northern New South Wales, (The current escapade is when he puts his Blue “Year of the Ox” World Peace by 2020 name badge on; see BadgeMeUp.com )

Extraordinary is what I can say about last weekend’s Wisdom Course Downunder” run by my favourite personal development company; Landmark Worldwide. Within the 24 hours (starting Friday afternoon and ending Sunday Evening) , one of my big takeaways until the next weekend on October 11,12,13 is making my INITIATIVE for my life as “BEING GENERATIVE”.

Reuben: “Charles I did it!”     

Charles: “What happened?”

Reuben: “I WORE THE BADGE again today and also the ‘bum bag’ (‘fanny pack’)

(The small bag is filled with 40 colourful laminated “beer mat” size “World Peace by 2020” fliers)

Reuben: “BUT THIS TIME, I didn’t make a song and dance about them.”

Reuben: “I just walked around all day. “

Reuben: “ and no one bullied me!”

Reuben: “Then kids would then come up to me and ask what was in the bag?”

Reuben: “I would take a deep breath ( turn, saying to myself “Bold and Brave”)

Reuben: “and say…….”

Reuben: “These are World Peace by 2020 badges, which colour do you want?

Reuben (PROUDLY): “I got rid of them all!”

MY INSIGHT:I saw from that moment that I had been “BEING GENERATIVE” with Reuben, BEFORE Monday and , as he was sharing, I observed that perhaps it was “THE LISTENING I PROVIDE “ which gives a clearing for GENERATIVE CONVERSATIONS that Produce and Create.

THAT SAID , I Enthusiastically Invite you to

PUT A SMILE ON YOUR FACE

as you read the following list of synonyms for the word,

GENERATE

to see whether you have a

KNOWING SMILE

for some of the ways to you can and have GENERATED YOURSELF:

  • cause,
  • give rise to,
  • lead to,
  • result in,
  • bring about,
  • bring into being,
  • create,
  • make,
  • produce,
  • initiate,
  • engender,
  • spawn,
  • sow the seeds of,
  • occasion,
  • effect,
  • originate,
  • bring to pass,
  • bring on,
  • precipitate,
  • prompt,
  • provoke,
  • kindle,
  • trigger,
  • spark off,
  • touch off,
  • stir up,
  • whip up,
  • induce,
  • inspire,
  • promote,
  • foster,
  • conjure

CHARLES: “Finally, consider “changes which are likely to generate controversy” so do share if anything has opened up for you, after reading this and know you will have GENERATED AN ANSWER if you answer this question! Thank you and WORLD PEACE BY 2020 to you and your family. Charles Crawshaw

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LISTENING FOR THE GOLD and what can be in the way!


LISTENING FOR THE GOLD and what can be in the way!

As a senior Landmark Worldwide graduate with over 10 years of personal development with them, I participated in their Communication Course; Access to Power and whoa, I really thought it was all about what one said, and the instructions needed to cause action, that made great communication. Sure and consider it is also the listening you provide that can impact the results you require. Huh?

Standing on the shoulders of what I learned on Day 1 of the Landmark Forum with my ‘already always listening’ of people,  where I saw one of my ‘filters’ I had with MY LISTENING was whether the person is LIKING WHAT I WAS SAYING. In other words, I was LISTENING FOR “whether I was being taken seriously or even if the person liked me!” Oh oh, if I was PAYING ATTENTION to MYSELF, there was fat chance I was listening to the other person at all?!! Oops and sorry!

I do remember being HORRIFIED to discover that whenever my dear Chinese mother would call me from Hong Kong, (when I was a young “twenty-something” living in London), the long-distance expensive call on the landline (the 1980s!) was hurried, and to the point. A dear Asian trait perhaps?!

Mum would ask: “How are you, have you paid the rent, have you paid your electricity, have you paid all your bills? Ok Bye!”

HOW I LISTENED to that was that MUM DIDN’T LOVE ME because if she did, she would have slowed down, taken interest in my girlfriend and even ask what jobs and projects I was up to etc??!!” I realised during the course that my mother REALLY CARED FOR ME, so she just wanted to make sure I never ended up living on the streets of London! Oops and yes, I called her and apologised for how I listened to her. More here:

ACCESS TO POWER

Moving on, once I had learned how I listened and continually notice if I had filters of how I was listening, I discovered a new world would open up. “Listen for the Gold (no filters here) and then use 4 words that will give access to power.

Consider making the following:

  • Promises
  • Requests
  • Declarations
  • Assertions

With all these up my sleeve now, I have found that by using them, I do indeed have an access to power, and hey the results that arise because of their frequent use has really impacted my life in oh so many way! Indeed perhaps all one needs to be POWERFUL is to be a person who HONOURS THEIR WORD.

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What Filters do you listen through, may I ask?

FLOWERS IN HER HAIR, FLOWERS EVERYWHERE!


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Lyrics for The Rain, The Park and Other Things
Then I knew (I knew… I knew… I knew… I knew) , she could make me happy (happy… happy) (She could make me very happy) Flowers in her hair (in her hair) Flowers everywhere (everywhere)
Acknowledgment As A Power : PASS IT ON!
Click this picture to play the song! PASS IT ON!

ACKNOWLEDGMENT AS A POWER : PASS IT ON!

ACKNOWLEDGMENT AS A POWER ; PASS IT ON!

How often do you say THANK YOU” How often do you go ‘out of your way’ to really acknowledge someone for making a BIG or SMALL DIFFERENCE in your LIFE? Is it often or rarely said? Good to notice, and hey, consider there is “NO RIGHT ANSWER“. However, you may discover the next time you open your mouth to PUBLICALLY ANNOUNCE (versus saying it ‘in your head’), your APPRECIATION of the person who has helped you in some way, that MIRACLES ARISE?!

Only last weekend, 10 – 11 August, this lady (who lives in India), moved mountains to get these pictures done! I assert my acknowledgments certainly encouraged her with some enthusiastic replies!

I invite you to JUMP RIGHT IN and give out some acknowledgments. After I did the Landmark Forum in 1993, I saw that I was fairly ‘ungenerous’ for letting my parents know how grateful I was for the life they had given me. I am so grateful I learned to acknowledge my father, (for something so special to me as a child) before Dad finally succumbed to cancer in 2005. He successfully survived three “chemos” and made a good eleven years before he finally let go.

THANK YOU

What I said was “Dad, I really wanna say thank you so much for choosing “The Trilogy of the Lord Of the Rings” to read to my brother and I,  as a bedtime story for all those many many months! I so remember looking forward to climbing into bed and waiting to hear the next episode for Frodo’s adventures. Dad, thank you for the time and patience you put into it each night. It really impacted my imagination in oh so many ways.” Bless my English father, after hearing these words simply and modestly replied: “ Son, that’s what every father does!” PASS IT ON!

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WHO WILL YOU ACKNOWLEDGE NOW, after reading this story above?

CELEBRATING A MOMENT: Smell Those Roses!

CLICHE: a phrase or opinion that is overused and betrays a lack of original thought. So when I hear or read “Smell the Roses”, this cliché speaks of a way of saying “Slow Down, Enjoy Life, Notice the Beauty Along the Way”. Maybe a better or a more original way of describing how one would celebrate a moment is through A VISION.

“Celebrating a moment” just happens to be this year’s THEME for the annual Ocean Shores Art Expo in the northern rivers of New South Wales, Australia. This art expo is special to me in many ways including; back in 2007, when I had recently moved to Ocean Shores (village of 4000 homes) from Sydney (city of 4.5 million), I chose to sponsor the expo, by being the MAJOR SPONSOR for the weekend event. Oceanshorestv.com was born!

I won ‘First Prize’ in the drawing category that year and I have entered 2 art pieces every year since, according to the theme. This year is no different and my 2 entries comprise of:

1. A collage of the ebb and flow of my online television experience.

2. A ‘drone’ shot of myself, running on my bouncing boots and flying a flag with a WORLD PEACE BY 2020 logo graffitied with ‘PASS IT ON & YOU’RE IT!”.

What most people don’t know about me is that I was stabbed when I was 18 and nearly lost my life. I, therefore, VALUE LIFE so the fact I have been standing PUBLICALLY for World Peace since the 15 September 1995 (My Ceasefire Project) and that I am able to run a flag that forwards and upgrades this conversation, is certainly a VISION I hold dearly.

For you as a reader, and in case you are no longer on the planet tomorrow,( take on life as being URGENT and see what gives??….) , what moment would you like to share that celebrates who you are today?!

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COMPLAINTS: COMMITTED or HOT AIR?

We have heard them all: I never have enough money, I never have enough time, my partner never listens to me and on we go. Are they valid? Why do we say them? Do they make a difference? Consider that there are two types: Committed and Hot Air!

One of the most powerful distinctions I learned on the FIRST DAY on my Landmark Forum back in October 1993 was the so called: Racket – a way of “doing” or “having” plus a persistent complaint. It is explained differently these days! In the inquiry, we were asked about common persistent complaints we had about ourselves, others and even life itself.

HOT AIR

We were then asked to look at each ‘racket’ from two points of view; The COST and the PAYOFF of these dogged grievances! Well I guess many people are unhappy when they don’t have enough money or time. For myself, I saw it stopped me, had me sad and I certainly wasn’t ‘lively’ when I shared this particular upset. Payoff, what do you mean? What do you get about having ‘not enough money’? Hmm…I get to be right! (Look at my bank account!) I get to justify my reasons for not having enough money! I get to dominate..don’t ask Charles, he never has enough money! Ewww!

Wow, so these continuous problems are really stopping me in having what I want! Ahah! So what do you do when you notice one of these re-occurring groans starts up again? Stop and notice…IS THE PAYOFF WORTH IT? Great question!

COMMITTED

But then, what about good complaints? Ones like “The World will never stop fighting, so that we have no more wars!” What do you do there? Aaah that’s where a COMMITTED COMPLAINT ARISES! Consider a committed complaint is only ever delivered to someone who can make a difference with the complaint. So in this case; sharing this issue with a country’s leader? Indeed all 195 countries’ leaders and hey, most of them are men…ahh another complaint..now don’t get me started??!! Best thing is to consider is that committed complaints can MAKE GREAT DIFFERENCES.

So the next time you indulge in a complaint, notice who you are sharing it with and if it isn’t someone who can’t make a difference with your protest, perhaps it is all HOT AIR! Now a great question to ask is what is YOUR BIGGEST COMPLAINT?