Existence: State of Living 30 of 36

Existence-State of Living-30 of 36-WORLD PEACE ON Tuesday 15 September 2020
Existence: State of Living 30 of 36

Many of you know I am participating in my second consecutive Wisdom Unlimited course run by Landmark Worldwide down here in Australia. During the course, 36 words/phrases were shared, where we could choose any one of them and take on as an initiative over the months of the course to inquire; Existence is one such word.

Looking from my life and where existence has shown up in a transformative way, I can see that firstly I had to look at how I automatically operated so I was ‘unlovable’ (see more here) and a ‘failure’ (see more here). Looking back, I saw I had ‘existence’ structures that held those thoughts ‘as the truth’ for me.


One existence structure was located in my thoughts. I so clearly remember my ‘reactions’ whenever Cathy, my girlfriend for over 4 years (I was aged 25 – 29 years old), said ‘I love you!” My immediate thought each time was to say to myself:

  • ‘How can you love me?”’
  • “I don’t believe you!”
  • “You hate it when I kiss other girls and you hate it when I get drunk!”

These automatic existence thoughts reinforced my thought that Cathy could never really love me, (I completed with Cathy in my Landmark Forum apologising for being a ‘righteous jerk’ in our relationship.


Several existence structures for me “being a failure” was revealed when I participated in the Communication Course: Access to Power,(read more here) learning I had several existence structures that ‘displayed me as a failure’.

Existence: Structures that Support

What has opened up for me, in this Wisdom Unlimited Course between weekends 4 and 5, is my inquiry into the stages of development or existence of futures. At any one time, I can look at whatever project I am working on, and look for existence structures that support the stage my project is operating in.

Indeed one can make a whole list of ways of looking at what support structures can help you move one stage of development to another.

  • Phone calls
  • Emails
  • Websites
  • Diaries
  • Displays
  • Team Members
  • Conversations
  • Stand
  • Tools and Practices

These are all ways to look at one’s project and see where actions are taken with any one of these; and much more can move the project to the next stage of development.

Having taken World Peace By 2020, as one project I want to work on, in this Wisdom Unlimited program, I do indeed love existence structures to support my stand and promote the project (see wp2020.com and QueensPeace.com).

What Existence Structures Empower You?


Unreasonable Request: Magic Happens 29 of 36

Unreasonable Request-Magic Happens-29 of 36-WORLD PEACE ON Tuesday 15 September 2020

As I am coming to the end of my blogs on 36 phrases that can access transformation, I note that there was a similar inquiry into transformation with the phrase “Being Unreasonable” where indeed I do share an unreasonable request that had me make international news in the name of World Peace!

I have learned the nature about unreasonable requests. It is that the outcome comes in one of three possible responses:

  1. YES
  2. NO

Unreasonable: Beyond the Limits of Acceptability or Fairness

If transformation of oneself is empowered through “unreasonable requests”, then going “BEYOND the limits of Acceptable” conjures up a new imagination of which one can be?!

Who can you be?

How about:

“Bold Leadership Causing the Unimaginable” BLCTU

Before I share, please know this ‘BLCTU future’ is not copyrighted, so please TRY IT ON and pass it on, especially in the name of World Peace by TUESDAY 15 September 2020: Pass It On! You’re It! #ITSATUESDAY

It was during my first Introduction Leader’s Program (ILP) , where for 6 months, as a body of some 10 Sydney centre participants, we took on being this future (BLCTU) individually and as a team around the Darlinghurst, Sydney centre in 1995. Sure we caused some great outcomes within the centre and it was the projects that truly HAD ME LIVE ANEW!

24 September 1993 :

Juan Antonio Samaranch, (International Olympic Committee President) televised quote: “...and the winner is…. SYDNEY!”

Charles: “Wow Sydney is hosting the 2000 Olympics!”

I was standing with a friend in Circular Quay when it was announced. I remember “oh so clearly” promising my friend Greg Box that I would help with the opening ceremony using my fire breathing as the access! ( I was trained in 1989 ).

1995 ILP: Using the context written above ( see context blog ), you can see that the future “Bold Leadership Causing the Unimaginable” would impact that promise.

  • I set up the Ceasefire project: “The Causing of World Peace through the use of FIRE”.
  • I ‘press released’ to all 5 Australian television news stations asking them to film our World Peace stand.
  • I called the Sydney Opera House and laid the foundations for a “Setting off a World Record” on their famous Opera House Stairs. I asked the Guinness Book of Records to document it.
  • I asked fellow participants in the course to learn the art of fire-eating : Fakir.
  • I asked the Sydney Olympic Committee to include us in the opening ceremony,
  • I asked that the 15 September 1995 be well broadcasted.

My point above is that I was truly operating in a world of BEING UNREASONABLE making bold requests all over the place, which caused the remarkable news story for World Peace. (see “Live News” video 5 years after)

Request: An Act of Asking Formally for Something

Aaah, how strong was my propensity that I will ‘do it myself’; knowing it will get done versus relying on anyone else. “Fiercely independent” was definitely one discovery I learned in my Landmark Forum (more here).

From there, I participated in the  Team Management and Leadership Program (TMLP) run by Landmark Worldwide. I learned a new way of expanding my capacity of leadership by not being there! I made requests!

Following on from the story above around fire breathers, I taught participants for this TMLP course Fire Breathing too. I requested they return to Perth, Melbourne, Brisbane, Auckland and Christchurch and teach more breathers and then hold a fire show for World Peace in their respective city. I believe only Brisbane and Christchurch did not honour my request through numbers or no trainer available.

Certainly one can say that perhaps the majority of humanity wants to contribute to society in one shape or form, so whenever a request is made, the receiver has an opportunity to help. What I have learned is to ask more often and be continually surprised when people act or respond above or beyond my expectations! So here is my unreasonable request to you as a reader.

Please take a stand to cause:

World Peace by Tuesday 15 September 2020

by whatever means possible and Pass It On?


SELF EXPRESSION: The Discovery is So Enlightening 25 0f 36

Self Expression-The Discovery is So Enlightening-25 of 36-WORLD PEACE ON Tuesday 15 September 2020
SELF EXPRESSION: The Discovery is So Enlightening 25 0f 36

Self Expression is defined as an interpretation of one’s feelings, thoughts, or ideas, especially in writing, art, music, or dance.

What is My Life Meant to Be?

That was certainly the question that opened up for me after my Landmark Forum in October 1993. Having dwelt with the idea to consider that “life is empty and meaningless, and it is empty and meaningless that it is empty and meaningless”, I was left with an exciting thought: A NEW CHARLES!

Children: Our Future

I love children. My new self-expression in 2019 is definitely based around children.

Here are  2 moments that IMPACTED my stand for WORLD PEACE BY 2020 this year.

  1.  “Having asked me why I loved talking about World Peace so often”, Reuben (my neighbour’s son; aged 10) came up with a clever “TAG” playground game, where children can run around and tag each other shouting: “World Peace by 2020: Pass It On! You’re It!”. It is such a game so worth playing; don’t you think? Imagine school playgrounds around the world playing “this very” game? #WP2020#PASSITION#YOUREIT
  • “Having asked 12 of Lucy’s same-aged girlfriends, (who were playing a treasure hunt for her birthday), on the famous Byron Bay main beach here in Australia, to perform to our tv cameras, this is what happened:

All the girls put on some bouncing boots and grabbed national flags, including the top 5 nations who make arms:

  • Russia
  • USA


The girls SHOUTED:

Then we sang “Happy Birthday Lucy, Happy birthday Lucy, Happy birthday dear Lucy, Happy birthday to you.”

Then we gave three cheers for Lucy; “Hip Hip Hooray; Hip Hip Hooray; Hip Hip Hooray!”

All the while, dear Lucy was surrounded by us and holding onto her flagpole tightly. The camera reveals she is self-conscious of our acknowledgment through our song and cheers so, right after our last hooray, she shouted:


Followed later with :


26 Oct 2019: Currently, the showreel is with our sound engineers taking out the background beach noises to ACCENTUATE HER WORDS and then have it ECHO!

Birth of My Self Expression around Children

I assisted for Landmark’s Young Person’s Forum and Teen Forum around 1994 and I discovered, personally, that this was one of the most beautiful aspects of Landmark Worldwide personal development courses. Indeed, the following prose is the source of my inspiration, into the world of children.

Notes On An Unhurried Journey

When we adults think of children, there is a simple truth which we ignore; childhood is not preparation for life; childhood is life. A child isn’t getting ready to live; a child is living. The child is constantly confronted with the nagging question: “What are you going to be?” Courageous would be the youngster who, looking the adult squarely in the face, would say, “I’m not going to be anything; I already am.”

We adults would be shocked by such an insolent remark, for we have forgotten, if indeed we ever knew, that a child is an active participating and contributing member of society from the time he is born. Childhood isn’t a time when he is moulded into a human who will then live life; he is a human who is living life. No child will miss the zest and joy of living unless these are denied him by adults who have convinced themselves that childhood is a period of preparation.

How much heartache we would save ourselves if we would recognize the child as a partner with adults in the process of living, rather than always viewing him as an apprentice. How much we would teach each other… adults with the experience and children with the freshness. How full both our lives could be. 

A little child may not lead us, but at least we ought to discuss the trip with him; for, after all, life is his and her journey too.

  – Professor T. Ripaldi

Self Expression: How, where and when?

Great question!

When I look to see where and when I am fully expressed, I have noticed the following:

  • That I love whatever I am engaged in at the time.
  • That I have so much passionate evidence for the matter at hand.
  • That an observer is left with little doubt about my passion for the matter at hand.
  • That I am unstoppable about the stands I have declared in my life making me fully self expressed as a result.

The big question is HOW DOES ONE DISCOVER ONE’S Self Expression? I have found that it is all about asking yourself profound questions about your life!

What do you enjoy in life?

What do you love about your life?

What lights you up when you are with your friends and family?

Around any work you do, are you able to say joyously: I can’t believe I am getting paid for this!?

Consider that if you follow your heart and passions in life, you will be fully self expressed!

Question is: What is your FULL SELF EXPRESSION?


POSSIBILITY: If No Transformation occurs, what happens? 24 0f 36

Plane wing overlookingcloud possibilities

Possibility: A Thing That May Happen or Be The Case.

Whilst it may sound ‘way to simple’ and it isn’t the truth anyway, my participation with Landmark Worldwide continually comes across a fork in the road.

Cynicism, Resignation, and Complacency versus Possibility.

Cynicism versus Scepticism: What’s the Difference?

Cynicism is defined as an inclination to believe that people are motivated purely by self-interest so you would consider that any allowance of communication will be tainted purely  because the listener already has this thought: “Nothing in it for me.”

As for scepticism, it is defined as an attitude that shows you doubt whether something is true or useful. This keyword “useful’, is again located around whether there is “something in it for me.”

So perhaps I can say that a person who is cynical generally has little faith in others; whereas a person who is skeptical is more likely to put in the appropriate research before believing what they are told.

Resignation: The Evidence for Anything Else is Nil.

It is interesting, in my journey with Landmark Worldwide, that my discovery of my thought of being a failure (see video) would produce evidence for resignation. Here are some examples of my resignation:

  1. I so remember trying to be picked for the top tier teams in rugby union, for both London Scottish and Sydney University, yet always ending up in the lower yet ‘very social’ teams.
  2. I also remember trying to get picked in management roles for sales teams in Sydney but simply ending up as a top sales performer with my team of one.
  3. I also was so resigned about being in a loving and lasting relationship. After Cathy (4 years), my girlfriends lasted for 3-6 months and never as long or as close as when I was with Cathy. I so remember the sense of being heartbroken, after we split, and I was very sad/depressed for 6 months, until I started dating once more. The first few girlfriends didn’t stand a chance, as my heart was damaged, and I remember saying to myself that I will never let myself be that vulnerable again!

Complacency: Being OK with No Action

Complacency is defined as a feeling of smug or uncritical satisfaction with oneself or one’s achievements. For myself, I have discovered that any inaction on my behalf means that I am not enrolled with the opportunity at hand. I rarely sit idly if I have taken interest in something. What I have observed, over the years, is a sense that complacency is perhaps a polite word for saying one is lazy!

“Why should I?”

”Who cares anyway?”

POSSIBILITY: An Access to Transformation

It is no surprise when one observes young children and ‘see and hear’ them being “full of possibility”. Interestingly, and perhaps no surprise, you could say we gather evidence, after each year, to diminish possibility, such that we do end up being resigned, cynical and complacent about life. I was aged 30 when I completed my Landmark Forum in October 1993.After 3 days, a world was created for me revealing my life was a “blank canvas”, where my past was truly put in my past (where it belongs) and that I was able to stand for a future that touched moved and inspired me, by that future! As mentioned in the “Nature of Choice” of day 3 (Sunday) ,the world of Unlimited Possibilities is truly at hand.

World Peace by Tuesday 15 September 2020, as my possibility!